Copied from a Facebook Post

Sorry this is not an original post, but I thought it was too good not to have saved somewhere other than on my phone. We all know how reliable that can be. It was posted on the Hope After Grief page on Facebook by Gail Carico Bryant. 

 "In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question, 'What kind of man are you looking for?' She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, 'Do you really want to know?' Reluctantly he said, 'Yes.' She began to expound, 'As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man. 'What can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills, I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, What can you bring to the table?' The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, 'I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms and asked her to explain. She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster, I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest, and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect in order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him...he will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I cant help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot.' She replied, 'I am worth a lot!'" 

 As a widow, I think this is a very good message to tell myself. I think after being married most of my life, I forget what it is that I really need to be looking at and not settling for something less than perfect for me. Thanks for reading. I will be trying to update some of my own thoughts this coming week.